So you want some guidelines that you can stick to and that your children will follow? Here are five of them. Remember you are the parent, you make the rules, don’t let your little one be in charge. Offer great praise and rewards. No, not necessarily candy, a new bike, the new Wii game, but love attention and praise.
Have a routine and stick to it. If bedtime is 8 o’clock that means in the bed, teeth brushed, PJs on, getting ready to go to sleep. Keep your home organized and in order. Clutter can be a catastrophe. Set times for waking, meals, and baths as well. When the routine is set, you can be flexible. You have probably been on a routine for some time. It gets easier to adjust to after a while, it works the same for children.
There are two types of warnings, the one that it is almost time for dinner or a bath, and the second is for bad behavior. Only worn once, you don’t need to tell them they will go on a timeout if they don’t listen 15 times. They will believe it is a game.
Keep your cool. You have probably handled more in your life than an 8-year-old. Count to ten, and remind yourself that you’re in charge. You are the adult they are the children. Do not shout back. Remember kids are kids, they like the game of who can shout the loudest. The problem with this is that usually the child will yell louder and think its fun. Exercise your cool, calm, control, it will make all the difference, especially in the way your children speak to you.
Explain what you want in a way a child can understand. Keep it simple. If she does something wrong, explain why it is wrong, and ask if she understands the reason. Don’t make things too complicated. Children are pretty smart, they understand what’s going on because they observe adults.
Children can be responsible. There is the notion that children want to grow up quickly. They think work is just a place where you go to check email, hang around other adults, and get paid money to buy toys. Give them incentives to finish a project in an appropriate amount of time. Let them know you believe they can do great things.